Heart Outpouring on Facebook Wall

The most classic of the causes of the low self-esteem is a failure in romance. Feeling betrayed many times by boy or girl friends. Feeling of ignored and removed like a dust, or even like to cast out a mosquito that bite the skin, can cause a person to experience “psychological distortion”. As a result, she or he felt so useless, treated improperly, and then curse herself why such a bad experience in love happened. This is like a serving dish of “pondered melancholia” for her. Furthermore, without thinking longer time (not analyzed by using a kind of rational thought) the pervasive melancholy of failed romance leads to a lower value of themselves. They make a justification that presumably he was born to feel the disappointments only. Then love would be like a tub Palaver somniferous latex processed after the heady smoked, which made him lose consciousness, slumped down, and feels sinking in the darkest valley of suffering in this world. It is so tragic and dangerous to the mental health of the individual.

This situation indicates an emotional hijacking with mental stress. At various events that experienced painful event many times, an individual is “blinded” their senses ability. They tend to think with a negative emotional impulses (like disappointed, depressed, anxious, fearful exaggeration), when they are interpreting the perceived ongoing traumatic experience. So, this is a hazard thing if anyone judges himself with low valuations, they lost their hope.

Furthermore if they dissolve the natural gloom of disappointment, she began to dramatize everything disproportionately. The more they wondered why there should be suffering must be experienced, the more they found “good reasons” to suffer. This is not someone else do it, but he himself who stoned himself to lose hope in this life. The question is why should we so cruel with ourself? How to overcome these painful experiences? We should be able to treat our self in proper way. We should arise from traumatic experience, and reward our self in appropriately way?

Respect Yourself

In this life it is clear that there are a lot of events with a various experiences and feeling, including events involving a person who had tasted of bitterness and very painful. When we cannot handle it, we would lose our self-consciousness, always feelings of sadness and melancholy that will destroy his days undoubtedly. We understand that this life is unique and short. Why should we put our life into agony? Why don’t we enjoy this life even though many bitter experiences we have?  Of course…..we could always find the right solution to address the variety of life issues, including a failed love life many times that.

I believe if we “know” who our self is, every painful experience will not be able to hit down us. We would have a strong determination to enjoy this life, to be happy, to always have hope in every situation of life. We will be able to arise in our standing life. We have power to defeat them where we still have hope. That’s why never them to dissolve in disappointment. Let us see our self, our life so worthy to be wasted just because one or two problems. Especially when we walk with Jesus….. He will help in unimaginable way, beyond our question. I believe for have experienced for many times. Jesus is our shepherd and savior when we are in trouble not only in this earthly life, but also the life to come.