Heart Outpouring on Facebook Wall (1)

“I have no hope. he’s gone from me. your love is only for impingement. I am truly hurt. I am dying now of thinking you.” This was a status on facebook wall which sent via mobile phones. 

Another status reads:“What an unfortunate fate I had. It looks like I was born to be constantly disappointed. “ 

“Is it because of you don’t need me anymore? Why do you leave me? I really hope your love… my dear, please come back to me.” 

“for many times…. I’ve failed again!

I am not worth for him. If I am not coupled with him, Yes I accept, my Lord. But, please check again, Lord .. Who knew there was a mistake.” 

 It seems very gloomy and melancholy tone when reading statuses on facebook wall, where users are being affected negatively due to the painful experienced which happened in our daily life. Then, attitudes tended to despise themselves, emerge with various expressions including jeremiads on FB Wall. Why it should be like that? What makes people feel themselves “useless” and look at themselves unworthy with a variety of expressions of negative emotions?“ 

People can lose their confidence if they exposed to failure many times,” said pioneer Positive Psychology, Martin Seligman. The professor introduced the term “learned helpless” to point out a pattern of self-assessment (self-esteem). They believes that they are “a failure” in all case. Everything done seems to be wrong. Unfortunately it tend to leads to despair. When people experienced failure many times, they will learn to believe that whatever they do, they will not produce anything,” he explained.

People usually learn from the impressive experiences, whether they were good or bad experiences. However it is worse if they suffered a painful experiences many times.  Self-esteem is formed further leads to “total submission” that justifies themselves as “the extremely poor helpless.” What are their purpose to write their status in FB wall? They seem to be very diverse. Many of them attempt to gain the sympathy from their friends. It could be some sort of conclusive statements to assert himself who always suffer. The latter is important to anticipate because its impact is very danger.

The most classic of the causes of the low self-esteem is a failure in love or romance. Feeling betrayed many times by the couple, ignored and removed like a dust or cast out like a mosquito that bite the skin. It can cause a person to experience “psychological distortion” which result in feelingof useless. They they behave and treated unproperly, cursing themselves why such a bad experience in love to be experienced.    to be continued ….!